Tuesday, June 14, 2011

You Know You're Homesick When...

  • You hastily combine off-brand corn chips, gruyere cheese and sickly sweet "mexican salsa" from the local supermarket in an attempt to make a sad excuse for nachos.
  • You feel your eyes misting up while watching a late showing of the original language film, The Tree of Life, because you've just discovered it was filmed in Texas.
  • You spend a weekend on the beach in Liguria with a big group of people but all you can think about is how much you'd like to be with all your best friends floating down the Guadalupe River.


Last Summer, aka My Glory Days

aaaaand I really miss this too.

Guys, I've been kinda down for a few days.  I know you're probably thinking I should shut my trap and go find solace in a cup of strawberry/chocolate gelato, but sometimes you just can't shake these feelings.  I can't quite decide if this has been caused by the recent departure of my fam a few weeks ago, perhaps coupled with realizing I won't be home for 6 more months, oh and add in the fact that all the good friends I've made here have gone back home to their respective countries.  I'm kind of lonely, I guess.

This is exactly how I remember summertime.

Part of me is excited by the fact that I'm so alone - that means time for me to read, catch up on journaling, do some research, complete some projects.  But that also means I'm the self-appointed Mayor of Sadville, population:1.  Maybe I've just been thinking about all my previous summers, how fun and carefree everything was.  Riding my bike around the city, taking walks with my mom, going to all the good Happy Hour spots, getting excited about book club meetings with the girls, watching movies in the park, painting my nails with Sara, attending music festivals, visiting Nicole in Uvalde and eating the best CFS ever, playing on a softball team, relaxing in the hot tub at dad's place, grabbing sno-cones, working on my tan at Barton Springs.  It's crazy how things like that truly become a part of who you are.  But things have to change, right?  That's part of life.

Summer Salsa Dancing
Summer Kickball Season Silliness

Of course it doesn't help that a few days ago I realized I was on my last tube of stashed Burt's Bees lip balm and soon I'll have to begrudgingly switch to generic chap-stick.  Ugh.  Then I got a sweet message from the Shrodes that included a picture of them eating guacamole and drinking margaritas -  but ohh, the pain, the agony!  To top it off I agreed to go on this trip with my roommate and 15 of his closest friends to the seaside.  While I was there I watched them interact, tried to follow the conversation, but couldn't find the energy or desire to truly engage anyone.  I don't know why, really, but as I sat with them on the beach and took in the beautiful landscape, all I could think was these aren't my friends.  I felt like I was in some bizarre foreign film where everyone spoke a different language and talked about things I'd never seen and people I didn't know.

Summer at the Frio River

This post is turning into a pathetic diatribe, I must say.  I'm thinking this is just a phase and I need to get over it and try to make new friends, but golly, that takes so much effort!  And in another language it becomes more fatiguing.  I just miss how easy things were when I could simply pick up the phone and call my friends, go for a drink and effortlessly speak my own language. Though, when I think back to the last time I was in Italy during the summer, studying abroad in Rome in 2006, I have to say it was one of the best times of my life.  It was that summer when I solidified my adoration for this country, this culture, this language.  It was that summer I realized I had to come back and live here, someway, somehow.  And 5 years later I'm actually doing that!  Albeit without the company of my best buddies, without all the comforts of home, but I'm here living my dream.  And that's nothing to complain about :)


Summer Abroad, 2006 (lovingly dubbed by my fam: The Gelato Tour)

So there may be hope yet to cure my homesickness.  I've just got to take it one day at a time and be thankful that I'm able to be here, thankful there are people back home who love and support me - even if I can't spend blissful, carefree summer days with them.  Perhaps my day's goal will be to complete a few things and then try a new flavor of frozen Italian goodness (preferably that doesn't remind me of home!)

xoxoxo!

Addendum:
So God must be reading my blog because when I went to the grocery store this evening something happened that was nothing short of a miracle.  I found a ripe avocado in the "exotic foods" section!!!  Now this is highly exciting, since you all know I've had NO luck finding avocados and thus have had serious guacamole withdrawals.  Well, I happily got in line to pay for the overpriced South African import after tracking down the makings for a nice bowl-o-guac.  My nearly-religious experience was further enriched by the lady behind me.  She wanted to know how you eat an avocado. (!!!)  I explained the guacamole-making process (in Italian, what's up.) and described its deliciousness to the woman, she was intrigued by this foreign dish and thanked me for the information.  I was able to not only find a food that reminds me of home and preach its glory to the masses (well, just an old lady who may not even remember, but still).  Feeling better already!

5 comments:

  1. Great post, Brit. Captures a lot of what being homesick is about, being caught between the joys of the new life, and the joys of connections that are old and deep and true. Thank you for sharing your heart with us. We love you, and would love to go eat some actual Tex-Mex food with you. Kristin and Landon in Austin.

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  2. How about we rent a camper type van and travel around Italy? Sounds fun, doesn't it (if we can just keep Janet away from the malls!)

    We miss you too, Sweetie!

    Look forward to spending more time with you when we can!

    Love ya!

    Roy & Janet

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  3. Aaah...I totally left a comment the other day but it didn't post.

    Though we all miss you in our own ways, it's amazing knowing you're out there living your dream. I'm kind of glad you miss us, too, because it's no fun spending the summer without my partner in crime (and by crime I mean happy hour).

    Have some gelato for me (nutella and stracciatella, please)! :)

    <3

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  4. Hey, lady, hang in there. I remember that moment in Mali where translating, understanding cultural differences, etc. became less exciting and more of a chore. It's pretty natural, I think, though definitely lonely and sometimes miserable. I believe it gets better, however. And like Sara said, it's nice that you miss us. It means you're coming back at some point ;) Keep on living the dream, girl. This will be that time in your life you look back on and truly impress yourself with your own tenacity. What doesn't kill ya makes you stronger, right? :)

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